I spent a lovely session a few nights ago with a caller that wanted to be dominated with pain. I do not shy away from this, because as I’ve said before, your pain makes me smile! Some people aren’t into it, preferring to think of it as masochism. Now, there is a point where you can go too far. Causing irreversible or irreparable harm to yourself, pushing past the boundaries of sexy fun to extreme pain-punishment for any reason is not fun or ok. I won’t play with you that way or ever write about it. This week, I’m actually talking about pleasure-pain experimentation as a healthy, exciting avenue to explore yourself. Pain-play masturbation is alive and well at LDW, and it wraps up the final Wednesday of Masturbation May.

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The ‘Why’ And ‘How’ Of Pain-Play

Why is this an Amber Academy topic? What does this have to do with sissies and cross dressers?

Pain-play is not limited to any one group. Any one of you can be turned on by pain. Wear some panties and pinch those nipples, wear nothing at all and snap a rubber band around your balls! My caller the other night did both of those things, not to mention clip up his balls so I could have him pull them off slowly. CBT catches the breath in your chest. It’s exciting and heart-pounding and wholly intriguing to play in that way. But even though I write my Wednesday blogs for sissies and cross dressers does not mean they cannot have the same fun.

But I’m still nervous. Why should I try it?

Well, as spectacular as rubbing your cock/clit is, it’s not the only way to subspace. I just love when I guide someone into other-worldly pleasure, when I know that they are stretching themselves or surprising themselves with something new. Experimenting with pain-play can go at your pace or mine. But there’s absolutely nothing to be afraid of.

Do I need fancy toys for pain-play?

Absolutely not. In lots of sessions, my pain sluts are using things from around the house like a ruler to slap their balls or a rubber band to snap them. Nipple clamps are great but clothespins are great, too. You could take a dive into the deep end and buy a ball stretcher, but it’s hardly required. Maybe even get yourself a gag to feel a little more helpless. A real gag is great, or your can just shove panties in your mouth. Your call.

Wrapping Up

Spicing up masturbation, trying something new, just to see if you can….these are all reasons for pain-play masturbation.
You and I can have a ton of fun if you just say ‘yes’!