Recently, I had the pleasure of a Two Mistress Call with one of my favorites Mistresses here, speaking with her submissive over Skype cam while he served both of us. What a treat that was! I had been asked to join them once quite a bit ago and remembered his devotion to her then. This recent call was even better and I enjoyed very much watching this sweet, sensitive man descend into a deep subspace that left him literally quivering.

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Even through a computer screen, the energy from him to us was almost palpable and it was not just our words or commands that spiralled him further. It was clear that he himself was different than many that I have spoken to or spent time with on cam. He explained to me on a later call that he prepares for subspace, that he has a routine that he follows that goes beyond physical hygeine. His pre-session readying is to ensure that he will be able to receive all that will be given to him and enjoy it to the fullest. I am aware of this preparation and it is certainly not new to me, but his passion for it was refreshing. The way he spoke of it was with the same sacred importance that he displayed when referring to his devotion to pleasing his Mistress. It made me wonder how many of my readers and callers take the time to prepare themselves for subspace.

Subspace preparation is all in your hands

Of course, those that call LDW want the most out of their time with a Mistress. Perhaps you make sure that you don’t work late that day so you are not rushed. Maybe you choose a time slot where you will be alone and uninterrupted, when a wife is out of town or a roommate has plans away. You turn off your phone, take a quick shower, lay out your sex toys and figure you’re as ready as you’ll ever be.

But there’s a big difference in a mindblowing orgasm and subspace. Picture yourself on a train. An orgasm is a spectacular glimpse of a scenic spot that you ache for with sharp anticipation. Your nose pressed up to the glass, the view makes your heart pound but the elation is fleeting and the moment is over.  Subspace is when that very same train stops just for you so that you may leave your seat, venture into the countryside, explore it’s rich landscape, breathe it in and stay awhile.

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Beyond the physical….

This submissive that I’m referring to goes through the physical prep that many of you do. Making sure he has quiet time with no interruptions. A shower, personal grooming of his genital area, even a quick snack ahead of time for guaranteed energy. He is on time to his sessions, has his toys in order, even does a pre-session internal anal cleaning to ensure cleanliness.

But it is his relaxation, his centering, his deep breathing, his calm reflection….this quiets his mind and prepares him for submission. Some of you may chuckle and think that leaving this out will save you time and not make much of a difference. After all, you’re busy, you’re fitting in the session the best you can already. And of course, you can enjoy quite a bit of pleasure without this part of preparation. If your orgasm is an item on a to-do list and you move onto the next task of your day once you release, by all means skip this step.

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But if you are interested in knowing how deep the rabbit hole goes, if you crave something heartier than a lightning fast release, stop and listen: getting yourself to a proper headspace ensures a rich subspace. This can only be acheived by reflection, quieting the world, minimizing yourself and maximizing your willingness to submit. Your respect for your Mistress and your trust in her allows you to let go.

Subspace is an intimate place you visit with your Mistress. She descends with you, and it’s as real as the nose on your face. Accept true submission and surrender will be close behind, ensuring you receive all your Mistress has for you, all that your body can hold.