No one likes to be disappointed, let’s just start off with that. And some of you can’t relate to this, especially if you’re a married cross dresser that doesn’t stray or a sissy that keeps to themselves. But some of you are actively looking for something, and by that, I mean you make ads, you respond to ads, you text and message with potential hook-ups and yada yada yada. Instead of some Thanksgiving post about not eating too much garbage on Turkey Day, I thought I’d follow a different thought and write about ghosting instead. Oh, and put some pics in the blog that have nothing to do with the subject. Cool? Cool. =)

What Is Ghosting?

So, what is ghosting anyway? Well, ghosting is when you express interest and lead someone on, and then suddenly cut it off, don’t show up for an arranged meeting and don’t talk to them again. This happens with both straight folks and sissy folks, too. Isn’t it your right to change your mind? Well, sure. But that doesn’t mean that being a cowardly douchebag is ok. Ghosting might seem like a clean break that helps you out and leaves no trace, but it can be an abrupt and disappointing end for the other person.

Now, I know how it goes. Sometimes you’re in a sexy mood, you feel like flirting, you connect with someone by email, text or social media, but then….reality sets in. You were never actually serious, you might feel uneasy about the things you were talking about, or maybe you’re just too nervous to actually go through with all the things you were saying you wanted. Sure, it was wicked sexy to think about dressing like a sissy girl and being used up by a thick cock, but c’mon! You were never really going to do it. Arranging to actually suck your first cock or have first time anal can start to make you jumpy and anxious. So maybe you cease all communication, don’t respond to the other person again and forget all about them. Wrong. Not ok.

So, What’s The Answer?

The answer to all of this is to be upfront and honest. It’s ok to flirt, but if you’re not really serious about that ad you’re writing, don’t write it at all. If you put your contact info out there and you get a hit back but you’re not serious, you need to be clear that you’re just in the mood for some sexy convo and not actually planning on meeting. If you’ve actually made plans but just can’t follow through, you owe the other person a brief but sincere apology. Then step back and re-evaluate before you do that to someone again. Do not use the actual process of pretending as a way to ‘get off.’ You want fantasy? That’s what I’m for. I’ve got ways to bring you to subspace that will curl your damn hair, and many of you know this! But real people have feelings, and one day, you may be really into someone and then they ghost you instead. It doesn’t feel good.

I think Bill and Ted said it best in their 1989 film: ‘Be excellent to each other.’
I couldn’t agree more.