It’s been awhile since I’ve touched on this subject…..almost two years, actually. And yet, it’s time to talk about it once again because all kinds of things happen to our hearts and brains when the weather cools and the wind whistles outside our door. It can be a very contradicting time. Everything around you show the colors and the feelings of the season. The music on the radio, the decorations in the mall and even the food in the store goes through a change. Pumpkin spice turns to caramel apple or peppermint everything, and it may seem like everyone is feeling the season but you. It’s hard to live in that world and pretend like you’re happy and festive when you just want the whole damn thing over with, and there’s so much guilt and sadness if you’re feeling that way. Seasonal depression is a real thing, and it can be hell on a person.
Is this fashion and feminization? No, but you’ll humor me. This is straight talk straight from your feminization Mistress, and it’s important!
Reasons For Seasonal Depression
There are all kinds of reasons why someone might be depressed in the fall and winter season. Of course, this happens with sissies and cross dressers, too. Keep in mind that I’m not ncessarily talking about depression in general, but the situational kind. Fall and Winter evoke the cold and grey, and it can bum you out! Even if you’re in a warm climate, you can still be depressed over the holidays. There’s also feelings of change, new beginnings and at the same time, there’s a ton of reflection. However, reflection can work against you if you are still dealing with the death of a loved one or pet, if you’re feeling abandoned by family or friends that have chosen not to accept you, if you’re going through the end of a relationship, if you’re dealing with unemployment, financial strain or just experiencing dissatisfaction with life in general.
Making It Through
No one has to go through things alone, and you’re not out of options. Here are some things to do if you are experiencing seasonal depression:
- Talk to your Dr.
I never automatically believe that popping pills is the first option. He or she may be able to refer you to a counselor and/or offer healthy options besides medication….or determine if your condition is more than just seasonal. - Keep a journal.
I have kept one for years. Putting feelings to paper or typing thoughts out on your computer can be very therapeutic. Start an online blog under a name that only you know and write in secret if you have to. Just get the feelings out. - Buy a light therapy lamp.
I have a girlfriend that loves hers. When getting natural sunlight just isn’t possible, consider buying one of these amazing machines.
Seriously, look into it. - Don’t neglect YOU.
That means stop eating garbage, stop staying up all night. Eat the food you know you should. Drink water, and don’t deprive your body of the rest and replenishment that it needs. Underneath your feminized self is someone that needs and deserves care. - Get moving.
Too wet and crappy to exercise outside? Go indoors. This is the time that gyms offer all kinds of specials. Or invest in a few good workout DVD’s and turn your living room into your gym. Try dancing DVD’s, yoga, any genre of activity that interests you. - Open your heart.
Rescue an animal and reap the rewards of their love and gratitude. - Find someone to talk to.
Maybe that’s your Mistress, or someone already close to you. Get online and join a forum or group for support. - Tackle a project, set a goal.
Decide you’re going to clean out your closet and then donate all you can. Maybe take a winter class at the local community college. Learn to cook. Something, anything! - Give of your time.
Volunteer for a soup kitchen, sign up to help at a shelter, etc. Helping others is very rewarding! - Don’t let yourself go.
Don’t let seasonal depression take the joy out of the ‘little things’. Don’t lay around in bed, waiting days between showers. Feel pretty, spend time on yourself, dress up and go out en femme. Let nothing take that from you.
Wrapping Up
No matter what you’re going through, never forget that tomorrow is another day and it just might be spectacular. When you throw yourself into positive things and put positivity into the Universe, you’ll get positive things back. So keep moving, keep breathing, learning, reading Amber Academy and keep working through these winter months. Love my feminization style? You’ve got every week of Amber Academy at your fingertips….a perfect activity for cozying up with a warm cup of tea.
You’re not alone. Reach out, and if you are having thoughts of self-harm, please call The National Suicide Helpline at 1-800-273-8255.
Great post!! I agree with this especially with 4,5,7,8,10. eating junk is something I never done but lately I have been and that needs to stop right now. I do drink water but need to do more of this and that can replace junk food. Staying up late is another thing I’ve gotten into and that has to stop as well. Unless it’s with girls I won’t do this. Sleep is so important getting 6+hours is a must!
I do workout/play tennis so that’s good thing and not stopping anytime soon.
I found massuse to talk to as I do 3xweek 2 hour sessions with her. It’s totally worth it as I’ve cut cable to make this happen. I’d rather spend 6 hours a week with her then watching 6 hours of TV. She’s been best massuse ever as we’ve had deep conversations about both our lives. She’s really opened my eyes and has been so supportive. I told her about my interest in wearing women’s clothes and I told her is makes me feel good as it fits and feels better on me along with wearing women’s boots. She’s even using women’s Japanese cherry blossom lotions on me. She got me hooked on this as I told her if she could use this on me and she happily said yes. She told me when I have this on I can smell like her and think about her when I don’t see her. Ive never kissed a girl nor had girls kiss me. I’m going to tell her that as well everyone saying I’m a good catch but no girls are biting. I know it’s professional relationship but do you think she will kiss me since I’ve never had this happen? I hope so.
I have goals and that’s to lose weight and get back to bodybuilding shape so I can fit into dresses/women’s clothes.
I won’t let myself go any longer asi have and that needs to stop like right now. I think buying women’s clothes/dresses is perfect incentive. To make me happy I want to have her/tennis girls make me their cream puff. I’ll do whatever they want and ask. I don’t mind as now that I met these 3 women they really do have power and control over me and I’m glad about this. It’s something that I wanted and needed all this time and it’s finally happening to me.
Goals are good. Keep setting them and keep reaching. Take care of yourself now and always, Petey~!
You would think that the holiday season should be the happiest time of the year and opportunity to be joyful and grateful for everything you have especially while surrounded by friends and family, but this isn’t always the case. First, depression is very serious as you have pointed out and should never be ignored. Seeking mental professional help is the best advice. So even if the holiday season is not the most wonderful time for everyone. I think having gratitude is the best antidote to combat against depression.
You’re so right, Miss Cindy! Thanks for reading Amber Academy!