I know that this current series is Readers Choice, and nothing has changed. But as Head Mistress of Amber Academy, I want to interrupt our course schedule today with a little food for thought. What I’m pushing out to you this week is something that all Amber Academy readers need to be thinking about because it affects you. Not you as a group, or you as a gender. It’s not a generalized you, but a specific you.
It’s a question, and if you cannot answer, if you cannot stand firmly and securely on that answer and feel it coursing through your veins like a heartbeat, everything is for nothing.
Do I have your attention? Good. I want to talk about what is underneath your feminized self.
What lies beneath the frills, powders, gloss and heels?
My first series in my time here was called Amber Academy: A Feminization Journey, and I took a different approach in my objectives. Instead of jumping right to polishing your exterior with fashion, frills and makeup, I dug a little deeper and went farther than some of you were expecting. It might have even been a bit uncomfortable and I have made no apologies. Do you want to know why? It is because I am interested in your interior just as much as your exterior. I love fashion and shopping, color and sass…..but a fresh coat of paint on a shaky fence doesn’t make it stronger. So, in the first series, we dealt with your beginnings, stumbling blocks and all the things that make you, you. And then of course, we progressed to shopping and all the fun stuff. I believe that sissies and cross dressers are women if they want to be. I will believe what you tell me, because who am I to tell you you’re wrong? I certainly haven’t lived your life or seen your struggles. But reading this blog isn’t the reason you’re a woman, and a new Marc Jacobs bag or that sexy Calvin Klein dress you found for $12 in your favorite consignment shop isn’t the reason, either. Accentuating your outside self is a beautiful thing and I encourage it.
But make sure it’s about enhancing what is, not fixing what isn’t. And that brings me to my question:
Are you a woman because of what you are doing, or who you are?
Self-assessment for feminized ladies
All you have to do is look around to see just how many directions women are pulled into. Buy this, not that. Swap this food for that one. Wear this, and never that! Oh, and get ready for everything to change with the season or with the opinion of another ‘expert’ or fashionista that emerges. It’s fun to reinvent your look and evolve, and you’ll never hear me knock it. But you can buy the most perfect makeup, the sexiest heels, the hottest accessories and the best toys on the market. But it doesn’t mean you’re not crying alone in your room, feeling lost in the world while your shopping bags stack up or your closet bulges with things that don’t make you happy. Ever wonder about the real reason why some of you purge and throw all your things away? It’s psychological, but very real. Until you know who you are, nothing that you buy, wear, use, smooth on or lace up will make a damn bit of difference. Until you can answer the question of who you are, you can’t make progress. That’s because feminization guidance is a lifestyle, not a cure. I am a Mistress, not a Doctor.
Women everywhere struggle with knowing themselves, whether they are natural born or not. So you are not alone in this. However, it is a personal answer on your personal journey, and it needs to be dealt with. You can’t dress or powder it away. The ladies that read Amber Academy come here to soak up what they can about the feminine lifestyle and apply it to their life, and that’s not changing anytime soon. We’ll pick it back up again next week, I promise. But think about my question this week. And if it’s uncomfortable to so do, allow me to make an analogy. A dislocated shoulder can be excruciating, but you cannot ignore treatment just because it hurts. You cannot cancel your Doctor appointment and live with a broken shoulder and smile for real. It will continue to hurt you and will never heal properly. You can buy a beautiful blouse and or even a sexy tankini, and it won’t matter. Dressing up your shoulder doesn’t mean it’s ok.
Be the woman you want to be, and be all that you can. But it’s about foundation and faith in self first……polish is second.
Great blog post Ms Amber. We all have reasons that can run very deep, that makes us who we are, and this is no different. What makes us tick and act in certain ways are both very personal and sometimes very confusing. Feeling a certain way can make us dress and act in a certain fashion. Figuring out why can sometimes help us indulge even deeper in our lifestyles
You are correct, Miss Cooper. Whatever the reason my readers have, knowing who they are is the first step of foundation to build upon. It is a question that many of us have, natural-born or not. Knowing your truth, staying true to who you are….it’s crucial in being truly happy.
I’m already buying more women’s clothes this year with leggings/yoga pants/tights/knee high boots/dresses/slips/bras/panties. Just seeing women at my salon wearing leggings/knee high boots made me buy pair of then as well as 2 pair of knee high boots. It also makes me weak, helpless,submissive & feminine. I admit it that I like wearing women’s clothes better then men’s clothes. It’s hot turn on for me as it’s only way I can get hard and off.
Whether it be in fashion magazines or in person, women shop for things because other women model things. There’s no reason why it shouldn’t be the same for sissies and cross dressers. Women we can’t take our eyes away from literally ‘sell’ the clothes and we are inspired and begin to want them for ourselves. The beauty of this is that we all do it for each other. For every woman watching, that same woman might be inspiring someone else. That’s why you always want to look your best when you are out and about!