Yes, yes. I know we’ve been talking about fall fashion trends and cross dressing, and we’ll discuss handbags next week, I promise. But I’ve actually been rolling a few things over in my head the last couple of days, and thought I’d share them with you. I may take a break from my duties as your feminization Mistress to do this from time to time….just shake things up and keep you all on your pretty, painted toes.

Christy Lee Polis

A few years ago, I remember reading an article about a transgendered woman named Christy Lee Polis. She used the women’s restroom at a McDonald’s in Maryland, and when she walked out, she was attacked. Two young women spat on her, kicked her in the head, tore the earrings from her ears and dragged her across the floor. She had a seizure, no one came to her aid and an employee of the establishment recorded the beating and put it on Youtube. I remember that I was beyond incensed at the brutality of it all, and was reminded of Kitty Genovese, the young woman that was stabbed to death in 1964. It was before my time, but the story lives on. No one helped Ms. Genovese, either. Instead, people just watched.
It was a savage, despicable day for humanity, and Kitty Genovese is remembered to this day.

This is not a blog about violence, but about the decisions of others. Just as we can decide to stamp others down and hate, we can choose to lift and love. The power for good and evil dwell together, just as your hand can strike or build. Humans are flawed, damaged and often disappointing. But the power can shift in an instant.
We can choose another way.

Loving others is a choice

I grew up with a girl named Linda who always knew she was male. She told her folks early on, she asked them to call her Wil and they began to raise him. Just like that, ‘Linda’ was gone, and Wil was loved just the same. Wil’s parents never asked him if he was ‘sure’. They weren’t hoping it was a phase, they didn’t question his mental state or treat him like he was damaged. More than that, if loved ones did not support Wil, the parents chose Wil over anyone who was standing against him. Later, ‘Linda’ legally became Wil, had his breasts removed and even met a great lady. And he did it with support and confidence, held high with the encouragement of his family. He grew up in unwavering love and loved himself as a result. That’s why he is a stellar human being today.

Maybe you live shrouded in secrecy. Maybe you have a deep spiritual connection to your femininity because it is you, through and through. Maybe you come from a family of assholes that never supported you and never tried. And maybe you are wondering why you should give a fuck about lovingkindness in a world that can break your heart so badly. But just remember that as easily as we can open ourselves to love and light, we can limit ourselves with anger and distrust. Will you ever witness a hate crime? Will you ever raise a transgendered young person? Maybe not. But even if we cannot change the world and the people in it, we can at least change ourselves. We can choose to be patient, open-minded and spilling over with love. We can learn to accept, even if others do not. We can care, even when we are uncared for. Easier said than done? You may think so.
But it is the only way to truly be free.

If you are transgendered and need support, please consider reaching out so that others can help. That being said, we will return to our regular series next week.

Thanks for listening, friends.