A recent session kept me thinking long after the call ended, which tends to happen sometimes. My caller has certain fetishes that trouble him and keep him guessing about himself. An interest in cross dressing with a little strap-on play thrown in? That might resonate with alot of you, and definitely my recent caller, you know who you are. Well, here’s some straight talk on that.
Maybe wearing panties is your ‘happy place’
Some people live at the gym. Some people can’t wait to hit the bar after work. Some people are at work all day thinking about the bag of Doritos in the pantry and other people are ready to read, shop, cook, take a bath or even cum after a hard day. So what if you like panties and the way they feel or look on you? So what your mind wanders to feminine places? It doesn’t necessarily mean anything at all. We all have something that relaxes us and puts our brain on autopilot. Some folks might say that everything is rooted in something, that there was a small (or not so small) occurrence in our lives that changed us and put us on the path that has shaped us to have certain fetishes or urges. Feel free to pick your life apart and sleuth out the exact thing in your life if you’ve got nothing else going on, but I don’t think it’s necessarily as complicated as all that. I know a woman that makes cookies and decorates them. She doesn’t answer the phone when she’s ‘in the zone’ and she can busy herself for hours. She doesn’t even eat the cookies, she just likes to challenge herself with art and technique. She found something that makes her happy. That’s all it is.
If you like panties, it doesn’t necessarily mean you want to be a woman. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re gay or bi, although some of you are and that’s perfectly fine. Maybe panties make you feel relaxed, feminine and sexy. If women still ring your bell and you aren’t interested in sucking the strap-on, if you’re not interested in any men in your roleplays and you fantasize about sharing your fetish with a woman as a part of sex, congratulations. You’re normal. Your masculinity is still intact. You know why you don’t feel normal? It’s because opinions and stereotypes in our culture, our upbringing and the beliefs that have been pounded into us make us over-analyze and self-condemn. Stop it. You are normal just the way you are. We like what we like. I put cheddar cheese on my apple pie. So what?
Anal play is for everyone. Everyone, for fuck’s sake!
Whether we’re talking fingers, candles, vibrators, dildos, anal plugs, tongues, strap-ons, real cocks, cucumbers or even if you’ve got your sights set on sticking something HUGE in your ass, there is pleasure in anal play. Obviously, you need to be safe and clean and go slow and easy, but testing your limits can be exciting, and you can find excitement in just a little bit of stretch and pleasure. Think it’s dirty? Do it in the shower. Feel weird about it? Keep it private. Go at your pace, stop if you hate it, keep going if you like it. It’s pretty easy, babe.
I love anal. It’s fun. I have toys and love solo play or messing around with a partner. The best orgasms I have involve a cock in my pussy and one in my ass as I rub my clit. It’s mind blowing and I will ruin a mattress with my squirt if you let me. Anal enhances my orgasm, it’s kinky and it shakes things up a bit. If you like it for that same reason, again….you’re normal. Anal play seems taboo and it’s no mistake that it feels as good as it does. Explore your body, let yourself like it. And if you happen to love playing with a toy that resembles a cock, so what? You’re going to allow the shape of a toy to mindfuck you? Quit that. You’re normal. Normal all the way.
So there you have it. Liking something doesn’t make you gay. Fantasies, toys or requests in sessions doesn’t make you gay. You’re not gay unless you’re gay. Some of you could never suck a cock on your own, but you would do it in a heartbeat if a woman asked you. Still doesn’t make you gay, it just means that dominance turns you on. Now, if you tell me that women keep you flaccid but cock gets you off and you want to suck a big cock, yeah. Guess what I’m going to tell you!
But if none of that applies to you, I understand. I always will and I’m always ready to talk, play and whatever else.
Do you love anal sex? Call me and tell me why you love it.
Thank you Mistress Amber!
I want to have a prostate orgasm. I’ve bought an Aneros, but I’m still learning how to use it, so far nothing. I agree with you about anal play. I don’t think I’m gay because I’m not attracted to men. Yet I fantasize about sucking cock, and being taken by a cock (I also love dressing like a woman).
I’m so glad you liked the post. Good job on buying the toy….never apologize for pleasure. Take it!
Awesome post Miss Amber! Sometimes we just like things …because we do. I agree, there is no need to psycho analyze everything. Fantasies are such a healthy way to express a curiosity. Yeah,all those men out there worried about being gay, because of a fantasy…just stop it! Enjoy yourself and cum hard 🙂 What do you think about that, Ms. Amber? What ever happened to enjoyment for the sake of it?
I fully agree, Miss Lena! And that’s why I wrote this blog. I hope many are helped by it!
I think a lot of people worry what various things “mean” …. if I think about this fetish, if I want to DO this particular kinky sexual thing or whatever …. and the worry always is: If I do X does it make me Y. In this case, if I do or like a fetish does it make me gay? I’m so glad for blog posts like this because it helps guys to realize hey you are NOT your fetish or your sexual thoughts. You are YOU.
Exactly. I hope very much that I helped alot of people with this.
I am as straight as can be. Although I would never go near a man his cock or whatever as I am 100% in awe of dominant females, and just can’t get into forced bi or any of that BUT (pun intended) I am very open (probably to open and pun intended) even with new women i meet that I fucking love having my ass played with. Weather it’s a prostate massage to Prostate orgasms which some are long drawn random cum spurts and cum spilling out of my cock and others are where I actually have a full blown ejaculation just from prostate stimulation alone (a woman’s fingers are great for both and this new curved thin flimsy vibrating toy I have that’s actually for women I just started using a few days ago and causes total ejaculation type orgasms with the pleasurable rythmic contractions inside my ass and all around that happen to pump my cum out omfg). I still need a woman to take me over completely and fuck me with a strapon. Bent over which im sure will cause some milking to happen and on my back legs up so she can see my face and my cock when I cum as she’s drilling my ass because let’s face it idc if people think it’s gay there is NOTHING that feels as good as cumming when your ass is being fucked or a dominant woman’s finged are in your ass (because there’s something for my ass to contract and pump around AND most of all she can feel my orgasm as she feels my ass clench and pump down hard on her sexy fingers while she watches cum spurt with every ass pump that squeezes down on her finger(s)) so to make my point idc if anyone (and some women I’ve told believe so) thinks it makes me gay. To hell with them!
It most certainly does not make you gay! Anal play is just pleasure from a natural orifice, and there’s nothing wrong with liking it. The people that make snap judgements and are quick to label you are sometimes very closeted about their own kink and they criticize others because they are actually criticizing themselves. Anal strap-on sex with a woman is quite hot, and I happen to love it. I hope you get everything you want!
Thank you so much for reading and sharing your kink with me!