In this series, I am talking all about bringing your domination, femdom, BDSM or bisexual fantasies to reality. In short, you know what you want, but how do you get what you need? Making a real sex connection is a ripe and juicy peach within your reach, but it will take some effort to wrap your lips around it!

Craving cock? You’re in good company.

You are not alone in what you crave, in what you can’t stop thinking about. There are many individuals just like you wondering the same things you are, aching for the same things. Let’s see. You yearn to suck a cock or to be penetrated, or both. You need more than fantasy, but you want to be safe about it. You’ve had imagery, but now you need something real, something you can touch. However, nothing just falls in your lap in life, not relationships, not employment, nothing. It’s safe to say that if you are skittish about taking the plunge and getting out in the world but you do nothing about it, you will be in this exact same place in a year, in five years and in twenty years. You will be older and even more frustrated. Even worse, you may be so closed off by that time that you have lost your gumption, never realizing what was there, waiting for you the whole damn time.

What kind of connection are you looking for?

Last week, I talked about prevention and awareness, and I wrote a blog about the knowledge you need about STD’s and being safe. Now that you’ve brushed up on the basics, consider your options. Want a quick connection? Don’t just fantasize about Backpage and Craigslist, get an ad together. No more lurking and ogling other people’s ads so you can imagine yourself responding and then jerking off to the the thought of it. Sit down and write it out. What do you want/don’t want? Can you host, or do you need to meet somewhere else? Get it together and post it. If you reach out and answer someone else’s ad, follow through. Don’t screw with people’s heads because you’re still stuck in fantasy. That’s not fair and you know it.

Interested in something not so ‘wham-bam’? Adult Friend Finder and/or Fetlife might be just what you need. Make a profile and get out of that comfort zone. You can connect if it’s important to you. For aspiring cocksuckers, naughty butt play enthusiasts and filthy fetishists, the Internet is the ticket! You may think you’re alone in liking whatever it is you like, but consider for a moment how many people with your distinct fetish might be in the same town as you or nearby. Maybe they’re sitting on their sofa like you, wondering if they should take the plunge. You can’t meet, talk, connect or play without a first step! Just use your head and trust your gut.

Make the Internet work for you. A real sex connection is closer than you think.