The best thing about feminization isn’t the dressing up, although it’s fun! No, when it comes to being a woman, it’s hard to describe. More than just an emotion, it’s like a tapestry weaved within you. Even if it’s not your natural genetic make-up, you are not closed out of knowing what I mean. No matter what anyone tells you, you know who you are. And ladies, if this is resonating with you, it’s because it should.
One of the best things I do at LDW is offer guidance and feminization training. It offers me a chance to not only get to know my callers on a deeper level, but it opens up communication beyond fashion, lip gloss and sex. And the one thing that we can always agree on is the subject that I am discussing today. When it comes to being a woman, the upkeep is tedious and can deplete more than just your energy.
Beyond the trends of fashion and frills….
Advice on how to take care of yourself is everywhere. Stay away from this, eat this and not that, do this everyday and don’t ever do that! We know what we’re supposed to do, but it’s hard to remember everything and be consistent. Too often, there’s not enough time in the day for everything and your energy goes elsewhere because of priorities and commitments. This means you may chip away at yourself and not even realize it, gathering the energy to take care of ‘main’ things while you cut corners on yourself. We can look like a million dollars but feel like forty-five cents. Dear reader, we need to remember that we are ‘the main thing’ and we deserve to nourish ourselves regularly. We are no good to anyone if we’re running on empty and feel like a dried out piece of toast. And holiday time is the perfect time to regroup and think about our commitments. This is a struggle for everyone, crossdresser and non-crossdresser alike.
Taking inventory and forming a battle plan….
Beyond the simple things like fueling your body with good, clean food, exercising and resting enough to maintain health, there is an entire spiritual side to you that may be underdeveloped. ‘Spiritual’ doesn’t necessarily mean religious. Make sure you’re taking the time to sit in complete quiet, away from technology and noise on a daily basis, even if it’s for ten minutes. Everyone has ten minutes! Listen to your breathing, quiet your mind. For some, it’s the only quiet time they have. Do not compromise it.
I have a practice that I do every six months. I have a meeting with myself. I write down things I need to work on and add a few goals I am setting. I also look at my meeting six months prior, and how I did on my old goals. I dream big but I keep it realistic. By doing this, I stay out of ruts, I tackle bad habits and stay ‘in the moment’ about my own progress. Your body is a machine, yes. But your brain, heart and spirit need care just as much as anything else. During the holiday rush of shopping, planning, travel and obligations, pay careful attention to your machine. Because your inner beauty and balance is what people see under your smile, underneath your ‘fabulous’.
What’s under yours?
With holiday season upcoming sleep and clean eating is key along with excersice. You can gain way to much weight during this time. It’s time to be with family & friends but you can’t ignore staying healthy and getting rest. Holidays are same as any other time of year. As far as dressing I love this time of tear with sexy turtleneck sweater I wear at home with boyshorts & pumps and bra underneath. I put on lotion/perfume/lipstick. Also wear yoga pants. With being dressed my legs look so girlish along with waxed body. I love being waxed having smooth body. All the soft fabrics on my smooth body. The slip makes me feel so girlish. I’ve been getting waxed for 12 years for bodybuilding but I still keep doing this for dressing purposes. I can’t help that I like to dress in women’s clothes/lingerie. It’s only way I get hard and off:(
Being feminine is fun! And I know what you mean about being smooth, with soft fabrics. It can make you feel absolutely beautiful!
It’s addicting. Looking in mirror with bra/slip/heels on I do look cute and adorable wearing this. My legs really are girlish in heels. As does my body. My days of being huge are over as I really have girls body. As mistresses said I’m really submissive and feminine wearing this as it get me hard and off. By wearing this it has turned me into chronic stroker and this means chastity and cock control:(
I’m glad to hear it, Peter. With a girl’s body, you finally see who you really are!
Mistress Amber, this is such a lovely post & you really captured the essence of self-care and prioritizing our emotional and spiritual health. That inner glow shines forth and illuminates people much more dramatically than any magic bottle of toner could! So much of what we are bombarded with are barrages of mirages that are just illusionary images to make us feel less than what we are, when we already have what we need inside and are in fact so much more! Thanks for sharing your thought-provoking meditation on this which is so vital in the up coming months of ensuing holidays. 🙂
You’re welcome, Miss Fiona! It’s important to commit to a self check-up from time to time, for sure!
10 minutes?!!! I make sure to take at least 30 minutes to an hour to pamper myself. I suppose it isn’t fair to make it sound so easy. After all, I do have an army of submissives at my disposal to cater to my every need. I simply want to reinforce the fact that I totally agree with everything said here. Take care of number 1 and the rest takes care of itself!!!
Oh, it takes much longer than 10 minutes to pamper ourselves, myself included. But that 10 minutes is just for a little focusing in the day, just to quiet our minds. People are busy and it’s a little unrealistic to think that they can spend an exorbitant amount of time every day doing anything extra. But asking people to slow down for 10 min a day, not look at tech and just catch their breath…that’s all I’m after. The world is whirring by so quickly for most of us, we need a breather. Just us, nothing extra.
This is really wonderful advice Ms Amber :). I think all too often we get caught up in the busyness of technology without taking the time to get in touch with what is really important. I read somewhere that we act more as human doings vs acting as human beings which ends us up frazzled at life’s complexities. Great way to help our budding divas to reconnect with themselves and be the best they can be! 🙂
I’m so glad that you liked it, Miss Jenna! This is a busy season, and the perfect time to slow down a little for our health and sanity.