About once a year or so, I cover a certain subject that seems to come up for my readers. Yes, you could find the previous blogs if you search for them, but some folks don’t have tons of time and look at recent blogs only. Well, this is important, so here it is and I’m just gonna come out with it. Purging is when you feel guilt, shame or fear about your female clothes and accessories (or even about your sex toys), so you get rid of everything. There. I said it.
Ok, so maybe you feel disgusting because of your desires and fetishes or you’re afraid of someone finding your items, so everything must go! Initially, you may feel better right after. After all, you’ve finally rid yourself of all evidence that you’re twisted and depraved, right? Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that you can NOW start being ‘normal’….(whatever that means!) But anyone who has purged knows what happens next. Nothing changes. Your desires return. You mourn your toys and pretty things. You regret tossing everything and before you know it, you’re shopping, ordering, dressing, playing and hiding things (and calling me!) again.
Why Purging Is A Problem
So, as a Mistress, why would I be against your purging? Is it all about the clothes? Well, it does sadden me to think of someone throwing everything away. Clothes, accessories, lingerie…..things take time to acquire and they become yours because you fell in love with those things at one time. For many of you who have struggled to be who you are, feminine items are more than just expensive. They’re sentimental, too. (If you threw away everything in my closet, you better start running, bitch!)
No More…..
But I’m against purging for another reason entirely. Plain and simple, it fucks with your head. Purging is a lie that feels like it will be a checkmate in a battle it seems you can win. But your kinks and desires are not symptoms of a problem. They’re uniquely personal manifestations of who you are. Maybe you were told at one time that you were sinful, bad, evil, disgusting, abnormal, peculiar, damaged or defective. But the people who told you those things lied to you. They were ignorant, fearful, closed minded, shallow and broken themselves. Purging won’t quiet those lies they fed you. So no more beating yourself up as you try. No more cycles or emotional rollercoaster rides. You are you and you have to be you. Purging changes zero!
So no more throwing away beautiful things. No more mindfucks from old ghosts and abusers. Wear those heels, rock that dress, enjoy that dildo, sport that wig and wear the fuck out of that red lipstick. Give yourself permission to love yourself.
Be you and never, ever apologize!
Totally agree with you on this!!! I’ve been dressing since 1998 and have worried about what others think but now I don’t care, I’m not doing anything wrong or illegal, there far more worst things I could be doing, ie-drugs,alcohol, getting drunk, pulled over by cops, I’ve quit the the partying with my tennis friends as I’ve gained to much weight,lack of sleep,eating late at night right before bed that’s deadly combination in getting fat/out of shape, NO MORE!!! If I’m fat how would I look in body con dress? Not good, I’ve purged only in clothes I’ve not worn/spring cleaning, I’ve invested to much money into women’s clothes/bras,dresses,blouses,
lipsticks,perfumes,lotions,boots,heels,wigs to purge. My masseuse said this is who I am and become and not care or worry about what others say & think. She’s right!!! I admit I’m not boyfriend material anymore and I’m fine with this as most women my age are married with kids and I’m not and girls I know have put me in friend zone, that’s fine with me as I can dress up/call all of you and not have to deal with the drama and emotions of being in relationship anymore.
Do you think I should come out of closet with my tennis girl friends about my dressing?
If you think that they are actually your friends, why not?
You are so right about this. I have dressed for almost 30 years. The only purge I have ever done is out with the old to make room for new things. That and size changes.
xxxx
yvonne
I call that ‘recycling out’. I donate clothes that I dont wear anymore and then oh, look at all the room in my closet for new things! Must shop! LOL
Thankyou Mistress. Your wonderful .yes .mistress brighton has posted may is national mental health month ,also princess andi posted something .we this sissy tedi needs not ever purge sincerly yours beta bottom bitch tedi
You’re welcome!
I purged 4 years ago took me a while to get back sincerly yours beta bottom bitch tedi
And I hope you have learned now that purging solves nothing. Please, no more tossing your pretty things out!
Ms Amber~ I couldn’t agree more, purging is BAD. It breaks my heart when I get those calls. And they are always filled with regret. I understand cleaning out things. Getting rid of styles that you no longer like, things that o not fit or items you simply haven’t worn ~ I encourage that but do not purge!!!
Exactly, Miss K!