If there’s one thing I remember growing up, it’s the older females in my family peppering my upbringing with little things to remember. Most of it centered around how I ‘carried myself’, and it was pretty annoying but totally for my betterment.

The theme never changed: feminine always! You are a lady! It didn’t help that I was the only girl in my house, as many of you know. When you’ve got four gross, older male siblings that are eating everything, shoving each other, flopping in chairs and making fart noises, it’s easy to fall into habits that weren’t exactly ladylike and do a little shoving of my own! I’m 33 now and have retained alot of my tomboy ways, but I have softened edges, and I owe that alot to my female elders. Being a natural-born female didn’t make me exempt from learning to be a woman. Feminization was their goal for me! And thanks to the bad influence of my rambunctious, uncouth sibs, this is what I heard alot:

‘Stand up straight…..don’t slouch in that chair….napkin in your lap….pick up your feet. Only horses walk like that….I should send you to Charm School, Amber!’

‘Charm School’ was an ever-present threat. I wasn’t quite sure back then what it was, but I was damn sure I didn’t want to go. It sounded like a complete drag, where uppity bitch girls walked around with books on their heads. No thanks.

It’s time to put those sexy legs to work!

Walking feminine requires poise and grace

The fabulous actresses that I mentioned in last week’s blog were unbelievably feminine. Every single one of them had a poise and grace about them. As great as their films are, there are things that we can draw from their cinematic work to apply to our individual journey, things to think about and start working on when learning how to look more feminine, more like a woman. That was the lesson in last week’s assignment.

With those actresses, we can see a certain loveliness and there are alot of women walking around today that still don’t possess that. The way a person walks and talks tells alot about them. It’s the first thing people see and it’s how they remember you. Men naturally have their own walk, but it lacks the feminine poise I am talking about.

Perfecting your feminine walk

This week, I want you to be mindful of a few things and incorporate them:

1. Stand up straight, keep your shoulders back and tuck your bottom in. Stand in front of a full length mirror and you will see how differently this looks compared to a slouchy, more relaxed pose. Some of you may literally have to re-train yourself in order to walk like a woman, and that’s ok.

2. Soft steps. Don’t flop, stomp or shuffle. No heavy feet. Experiment with different steps when walking to feel and hear the difference. You will have to be mindful of this, but finding the balance between confidence and femininity is the key.

3. Watch your stride. Men often walk with a longer stride and you’ll need to shorten it just a bit to make it more feminine.

4. Practice in different shoes. Walking feminine while wearing heels is obviously different than taking a walk in flats. Women adjust to the situation and walking is no exception.

5. Relax! If your walk is stiff and over-pronounced, it will not look natural. Don’t ‘lock’ yourself in place, but instead, make this your ‘new normal’. It will take practice, but most everything does. You can do this and you’ll get it, I have no doubt. Continue observing classy women, as they are your constant example.

I am excited to imagine all the progress you will start to see once you begin to master the tips above.
Be sure to come right back next Wednesday for more instruction from your feminization Mistress!