I was wanting to take a bit of a break from the girly stuff to talk a little about sexuality this week. It’s a funny thing, sexuality. It can change and evolve, shifting through life changes and experience. Who you were in adolescence and young adulthood can vary widely over the course of a lifetime, and while some have always known exactly who they are and what they wanted, there are always late-bloomers and sexual epiphanies realized later in life. However, there is no cookie-cutter sexuality when it comes to sissies and crossdressers, and to expect a certain lifestyle to produce certain interests and preferences is ignorant and stereotypical. Many people assume that crossdressers must be gay, that sissies must be gay. I’d like to think that younger people have more open minds, but that is not always the case. What was once considered ‘alternative lifestyle’ is now more mainstream, although not everyone has adjusted their thinking, and depending on where you live, people’s assumptions can range from accepting to downright archaic.

Being cock curious does not make you gay….

Of course, many of you are gay and that’s just the truth. But some of you are straight or bisexual. Loving the feel of a frilly nightgown or the sensation of hosiery on your skin does not make you gay, just like being cock curious does not make you gay. The truth is, we all have a ‘happy place’. For some people, all they can think about is relaxing after work with a glass of wine, playing a musical instrument to unwind, going to the gym to work out the kinks, whipping up a gourmet meal to clear their head or devouring a bag of Doritos on the couch to unplug. Indulging in beautiful fabric, luxurious creams, cosmetics and femininity is no different than that. Maybe when you’re all dolled up, it’s the happiest you can ever remember being. I would bet there are some gym rats, music aficionados, wine connoisseurs (and hardcore snackers!) that would defend not only the normalcy of their ‘happy place’, but their right to have it.

You are no different, and your happy place is just as deserved. But that doesn’t mean that because you are one thing, you are automatically the other thing. Maybe you are a man that has been a woman in your soul for as long as you can remember, and you dream of being with men. Maybe you’re happily married to a woman that you are very much attracted to, but you’re a crossdresser in private and it’s just another aspect of your personality. Perhaps you experimented with men in college and you wear panties every day. And maybe you sneak little swipes of your girlfriend’s Creme de la Mer and love your butt plug, but men just don’t ‘ring your bell’ …. you’d rather go down on your girlfriend all day and you lust after her girlfriends, too! Every single one of these things are normal, and those who don’t think so have more problems with themselves then with anyone else. The terms ‘sissy’ and ‘crossdresser’ may have a standard definition, but the people living the life are as varied as the stars.

The truth is, you are all snowflakes and there is a lot of prejudice in the world. It’s all about carving out your place on the  Earth, and being you above all.
Be aware of the assumptions and ignorance of others, but never be defined by it.