Recently, LDW accepted submissions for The 2015 Sissy Pageant, and later crowned two winners with more than just a title…..Victoria Secret gift certificates, too! It was a blast to go through all of the sweet and sassy submission pics of all the sissies that entered. They were more than happy to strut their stuff and we were more than happy to let them. Their faces exuded confidence. They owned their style and their smile showed it. Some might even say they even looked perfect, but I want to address that.

‘Perfect’ can give a lot of stress you don’t need

It’s not hard to see how images and messages in the media urge that women be ‘perfect’. From being obsessed with thigh gaps and unneeded cosmetic surgery to photo-shopping our pics before we upload and share, it’s easy to fall into the trap. That same push to be ‘perfect’ changes women into snippy, critical bitches that tear each other down mercilessly, when the very same critiques would reduce those same women to tears. Being ‘perfect’ can give a lot of stress you don’t need. You’ll never be ‘perfect” and that goes for all women, whether they be natural borns or frilly sissies. No matter if you are currently on a feminization journey or not, the ability to be truly perfect is a myth. You will waste alot of time and spend alot of money on it. It’s a dead end.

What does Mr. Webster say about ‘perfect’ and ‘perfect’?

Webster’s Dictionary has been around forever and a search of ‘perfect‘ on various dictionary pages originating from Noah Webster himself defines perfect as:

an adjective: (PER-fect): ‘being entirely without fault or defect, flawless, without blemish….brought to consummation or completeness….without error’

as in: ‘His drawing was perfect.‘

and

a verb: (per-FECT) ‘to make (something good) perfect or better….to complete….to bring to final form’

as in: ‘It was time to perfect her masterpiece.‘

Forget the adjective when it comes to ‘perfect’. Not only is it impossible to be perfect, as I mentioned earlier, but the adjective states that you are to reach the pinnacle of completeness and then have nowhere to go, nowhere to grow. This is not so! You are evolving, changing, learning and yes, sometimes failing. You have good days and bad, happy days and sad times, too. And if you hold yourself to the adjective of ‘perfect’, you will continually fail and be in a constant state of self-critical destruction. You will never be able to be everything, do everything every time. We all have faults, cellulite and imperfections. Not to mention that your natural ‘human nature’ will always let you down.

‘Perfect’ as a verb is the real truth. You are a work in progress. You are under construction, no matter what your stage as sissies, cross dressers or natural born women. You will never be done improving yourself, and that’s not a drawback. It’s a challenge and an adventure. It’s all about the journey, as they say.
‘Perfect’ as a verb keeps you humble. It keeps your eyes open, but more than this, it keeps your heart open to love and accept other women and the spirit within them, to build them as they build you.

Moving forward with ‘perfect’

Moving forward, what should you do with this? What is the take-away? Well, it’s all about loving yourself, accepting yourself wholly and completely. Forgive yourself for old wounds and bad choices. Learn to look in the mirror at less-than-photo-ready aspects of yourself and make peace. When you fall, get back up. You have to, or you will never grow. I loved seeing the sissies that entered the Pageant, but to those who were on the fence and maybe thought they weren’t ready, that they weren’t ‘there’ yet because they needed to be more first, be sure you adjust your version of ‘perfect’.

You are perfecting, and bringing yourself to final form. That’s a beautiful thing.