I want to tell a story of a real man and his real life, illustrating specific points for no other reason than to make certain things clear for anyone that would identify themselves as living a submissive lifestyle. This is about Mistresses as well, and the difference between fantasy play and reality lifestyle. It separates the two.

The backstory

Imagine a man that has a Mistress that he sees two to three days a week. She locks his cock on occasion, makes him available to her male friends, uses a strap-on with him, ties his balls, humiliates him in front of her girl pals and feminizes him sometimes. He has been seeing her  a few days per week for approximately two years.

Imagine that this man tells you that he has recently gotten whipped because his Mistress suspected that he had masturbated while he was away from her. He initially lied, and then admitted it. In his next session with her, he was whipped again because he did a poor job when completing an order that she gave. He admitted that he gets whipped often for disobedience.

Red Flags

Even though this man would say that he understands that he is below his Mistress and all other women, his recent whippings make me question if he truly understands the importance of listening, if he acknowledges her superiority and if he truly knows his role as a submissive.

This man has clear orders when he is away from his Mistress, but has decided to play the role of a submissive only on the days he sees her. Approximately five days a week, he is unchaperoned, unmonitored and independent. He does what he wants, wears what he wants and masturbates whenever he feels like it. He does not live any specific way or adopt different practices when he does not see his Mistress because he ‘doesn’t feel like it’. He essentially has free reign the majority of the week and only assumes the role of ‘submissive’ when in her presence, and she is aware of this and does not like it. Similar to someone who lives how they wish Monday through Saturday but gets religious on Sundays, submission is like a hat this man wears. He takes it on and off.

He is allowed to enter his Mistress’s body and have sex with her but is never allowed to cum. He has been told that his ejaculate is worthless to her and he is not a real man, but she still uses him for pleasure. He is required to be abstinent when he is away from his Mistress, hence the aforementioned whipping because she thought he had disobeyed. Despite only acting as a submissive a few days per week, he considers himself a lifestyle submissive.

During his first call with me, he identified as a submissive ‘in the lifestyle’ but disobeyed when I ordered him to stop touching himself. He constantly spoke over me and was quite bothered at the idea that I could deny him an orgasm. My reason? If he has a local Mistress he sees in real life and she wants him abstinent in her absence, I refused to undermine her order.

Now that I have set the scene, I will continue this blog tomorrow due to overall length of the piece. Be thinking about how a Real Mistress will weigh in and then check back to see if you are correct.