Chastity. The mere mention of it worries some and warms others. But what is the difference between the two? One group can only think about what they are giving up, and the other knows the implications fully and gladly relinquishes. However, the greater your hold and pride of ownership of your own cock, the more the need to release it and give it up. Chastity may seem extreme, but it’s one of the greatest ways to prove your complete surrender.
What true submission really is
Consider a true love relationship between you and another person. Devotion to that person does not expect that you ruin yourself to love them, but true love does give freely. Love gives your entire self. It does not give most and withhold something secret because you just want it for yourself. That is considered selfishness, and cheats the other person. It also cheats you of the closeness you may have discovered in sharing it. Chastity is the same.
You may not have a love relationship with a Mistress, but if you have made the transition from pretending you are devoted to actually being devoted, if you have moved from fantasy into reality, you will want to please your Mistress because you want to give it all. You will have reached an understanding where you wouldn’t dream of withholding, and are ready for true submission.
Even if a Mistress is not in your equation, there is much to be gained from chastity. Preoccupation and unhealthy attachment to your cock can actually be a stumbling block for your personal growth. Obsession with masturbation essentially makes you a slave to your own lust and psychologically impacts you. Anything with that much of a hold on you will eventually deplete you. A firm fear of caging your cock is a clear indicator of needing exactly that.
Getting the most out of your chastity experience
Chastity is more than purchasing a device and locking it around your most prized possession. The impact of what chastity truly means is massive, and should be regarded as a journey and not necessarily a penalty. Even if your decision for chastity is because you’re finally admitting you are a masturbation addict, consider the personal growth to be gained from your surrender. Spend time meditating on your new approach, being open to all that you may learn about yourself now that your cock is out of sight. Talk to a Mistress and/or journal about your experience and new insights. Actually freezing the key to your device in a block of ice will make your reality literally your ‘new truth’. Do not identify as a prisoner, but as an explorer, a researcher of your own untraveled and undiscovered self in the wake of your choice. Be sensitive to the gentle nudgings of your receptive self to try new activities, take up a new hobby and/or grow in new areas that you had never even considered. Get to know new pleasures in your own body and experience self-intimacy in a fresh way. And when you do unlock, you will do so with new eyes and a new mind, awakened and with a sense of calm you may not have expected.
Consider chastity as a path and not a punishment, and there is no telling what you will learn about yourself.
Mistress Amber,
Wonderful post. As a sub about to go into chastity for you its makes me feel so much better about my decision knowing how much you appreciate this level of commitment. Its truly the ultimate submission and show of devotion. One thing that must be recognized by a sub is a Mistress has your best interest at hand. Sure when she says no you might think she’s a cold hearted bitch, but really a Mistress does want what’s best for you. Even when you don’t know what that is.
I can’t wait to be under your thumb as we make the journey together.
I’m happy to see you say this. I’m excited, too!
Great post Ms. Amber! You are so right, chastity does elicit a wide range of emotions when it is brought up, especially when a Dominant Woman such as yourself brings it up. And I’ve never really given it that much thought, but you are correct, it is a true show of devotion for a submissive to really give over control of his orgasm and not cheat when locked away in chastity. I hope many of our guys read this and realize how special this relationship truly is!
So do I, Miss Christine. I wanted to write about the other side of things, not so much the ‘Now that you’re in chastity, you’re my new buttslut’ part of it, but more about the self-discovery side. I think I achieved it!
With chastity that ultimate submission. It’s so hot how you can lock guys up. It is good lesson to control getting off. I’m willing to do this if I can have release at done point. If you or other mistresses locked me would you keep me in bra/panties as well as keeping me dressed as girl? After much thought I’m going to let the mistresses take control of me in the feminization circuit. Ms Cindy said I’m whining to much like a girl and she will strip me in nothing but bra/panty/heels in mall for everyone to see and Ms Fiona said she will have me covered in lipstick also to show everyone what a weak cream puff sissy I am. MsGia also will take pictures and Ms Cassandra will have me smelling girlish in perfume. I can’t win and if I agree to do feminization circuit I’m done being macho strong guy as I’m their property to be kept dressed as girl. I already have petite, hairless, soft smooth body with c cup breasts and they put on white tip press in nails in me. With those 4 and possibly more mistresses joining circuit I’m overpowered and outnumbered as they have pictures of me getting off in bra/panty/lipstick/pumps. They said if I do what they want they won’t show pictures but if I whine they will show pictures to everyone. I said I won’t complain and they told me I should be greatfull for having 4 hot women do this to me which I am since no real women will go out with sissy cream puff and no real man dresses in lingerie and women’s clothes to get off.
You’re definitely right about that, Peter!
Okay so I saw the title and of course made b line straight for this blog because I fucking love chastity and I agree it is one of the things a submissive can do to show his ultimate service and devotion to you. Locking up a cock and controlling when it cums or is even touched is such a hot thrill for me. I love the advice you give about chastity and getting the most out of a cock locked experience… wonderful blog
Thank you, Miss Constance! I know how much chastity is a part of your sessions and expertise, and that is a compliment that I am thankful for!