Some people go their whole lives never playing with their ass. And the reasons are pretty much the same across the board. Often, people think that playing with their ass is dirty, or that it’s going to be gross. Sometimes, they figure that it’s going to hurt. Of course, they don’t know that for sure. They assume it will, and they’ve heard other people talk about it, which only heightens their fear. But I think the biggest reason that people avoid anal play is because of what they figure it will mean, what it might ‘say’ about them if someone finds out.
Debunking the myths about anal play
Anal play isn’t any more dirty than anything else. Of course, good hygiene is encouraged when there is sexual activity of any kind, and your ass is just like anything other orifice. Don’t let worries about germs get in the way of a good time. If it would put you more at ease, explore your ass in the shower, where you can keep everything continually clean from beginning to end. The warm water, sex toys that are waterproof…..totally a green light.
When it comes to being worried about pain, there is a difference between a little discomfort because something is new and it’s making you tense, and actual pain. Anything that truly hurts should be stopped. That’s a sign that something is wrong. If you’ve been a couch potato for years but force yourself to run ten miles, you might land in the hospital! Sex toys are the same.
Expanding sex play from basic intercourse with a partner to toys and objects is no small feat. You’re going to have to start small, be realistic, work up to bigger toys and make sure you’re safe. Plugs, beads, vibrators and massagers…..your ass has a myriad of options. But only use toys that are clean, smooth and unbroken. Hell, it doesn’t even have to be something you buy. If you cause yourself injury, stop all play until you’ve healed. Take all of these precautions, and there should be no pain.
Worried about what people will think if you like it in the butt?
There’s no reason for anyone to know that you are experimenting with anal play, or even if you like it. Unless you plan on making a t-shirt about it and announcing it, it’s your business. But that’s not the real problem, is it? It’s not really about other people. It’s about you. You are worried about what you think about liking it in the ass, what it might say about you. There is nothing wrong, bad, sick, gross or abnormal about exploring your own body and seeing if you like it. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re gay, although you might be. But so what? Life is too fucking short to judge yourself for wanting to be happy. If you aren’t hurting anyone else and you’re being safe, feel free to poke, rub, massage, insert, pump, and stretch yourself into the perfect anal bliss that awaits you when you allow yourself to have it. Be private if you wish, but don’t hold back.
Nothing is in your way. Give yourself permission.
Great post Ms. Amber, you know I do love anal play. And I’m with you, it’s an amazing shame that some guys never get a chance to, or are too afraid to experience anal play. And yes, anal play can be very safe, when done correctly. Having separate toys for anal and oral play, along with using condoms and proper cleaning procedures can lead to some amazing prostrate pleasure!
You’re exactly right, Miss Christine! As long as play is safe, it’s a green light for sure!
Did someone say butt play? Talk about ass play, and Miss Rachel is not far behind! I love it all, from playing with a subbie’s ass, to initiating those who may not even consider themselves submissive.
This is a really great introduction for the newbie who may have some misgivings about it, or simply be uninformed about what’s involved. I’ve had more than one playmate come to me with a libido bigger than their virgin asshole, who’s raring to go but brought along the biggest dildo they could get at the adult book store, and is wondering why it’s not working. 🙂
There are so many that are hesitant about playing with their ass, and it’s never an old subject. I hope that I was able to reach many and that I have them thinking and leaning towards the Dark Side….hahahaha
Mistress Amber,
This is so true that if someone has an interest in anal play they should try it. I’ve never been fucked by a cock or strap on but I’ve had vibrators and butt plugs up there. Typically if I am going deep I will douche before hand to make sure I’m clean. It is an amazing feeling. Yes it probably isn’t something straight alpha men do but if you’re a sissy its a must try. I like it and I might be gay but not everyone is a straight alpha male. Some of us need to just go with what we are.
I could not agree more, Stephanie! And trying things once is sometimes the beginning of a beautiful vice….