Recently, a certain musical starlet made quite an empowering statement that got alot of people talking on Twitter and elsewhere. Her words definitely got me thinking.
She was comparing the double standard that exists between men and women and how men that are sexual are seen as virile, but women are seen negatively for the exact same thing. She said “If a woman has alot of sex (or any sex for that matter)…..she’s a slut” and “….if a woman even talks about sex openly…..she is shamed.”
The truth is, being a sexually confident woman is sexy. Empowered women and Mistresses that know how they want to be pleased are aware of the world around them and enjoy squeezing every bit of pleasure out of life (sex included). They’re intriguing and truly unstoppable. To me, only women that have lost control of their sex life and safety are whores.
A Sexually Confident Woman In Your Bed
I heard a friend once say virgins are the best, but I called bullcrap on that right away! Yes, it might be exciting to explore new territory, and be the first to show a woman about sex and pleasure. But who wants a shy, unskilled girl that doesn’t know what to do, what she likes or how to say what she wants? When I started having sex, I thought it was overrated. That’s because I hadn’t done it enough yet! (Vaginal orgasms….what’s that?) Nah, I needed an education that wasn’t taught by a man or a cock. It was learn-as-you-go. There were hits and misses, duds and OMG’s. And I learned that being sexually confident isn’t just a skill, it’s an attitude. It’s an art form. You want a sexually confident woman in your bed, to know what to suck, how to lick, how to tell you, how to show you. You want her to not only know how to give pleasure, but take it for herself.
A Sexually Confident Mistress On The Phone
A sexually confident Mistress on the phone isn’t going to tense up or shy away from communicating. They have filthy minds that draw from experience, they weave stories that will make your cock ache and their voice is the next best thing to having hands on you. They have had alot of sex, and it makes them hot, not slutty. Whether it’s toys, teasing or torment, they will captivate you. Mistress phone sex is the ultimate in sexual confidence, and don’t be surprised if they not only reach deep into your psyche, but they leave something of themselves behind to make you want them again!
Talking about sex isn’t shameful. The only people that are uncomfortable with a sexually confident woman are those with sexual hang-ups at the root of them. I will never apologize for someone else’s damage or tailor myself to fit someone else’s small-mindedness. A sexually confident Mistress puts you at ease so you can tell her exactly what you want, too.
I am sexual, confident and open. Call me just to see how much!
I totally agree with this, Ms. Amber!
Without sex, none of would be here, and it is our most natural and biological imperative, so I honestly never have understood why so many are scared to think or ask about sex!
I too am a sexually confident woman, and I love to teach men about sex and kinks and fetishes! After all, you only live once, so best to enjoy every moment!
Great post!
Ms. Delia
Thanks so much, Miss Delia!
Bravo Ms. Amber!!! Very well said 🙂
So many guys come to us for help in exploring their kinks, or trying out new things…and it takes a sexually confident woman and Mistress to not only DO that, but do it in a way where the lady takes the lead. I love teaching guys new ways to have fun with their bodies and their fantasies–and I’ve had a blast the times that we’ve shared some strokerboys together!
Um….you and I have had off-the-charts fun, more than I have with anyone else here! And we’re not even close to being done….
Very aptly put, Ms. Amber! The Madonna/whore complex is just white noise to me. Sexually confident, experienced women are invaluable. There’s nothing like a woman who knows not only what she wants, but also exactly how to get it. I also think sexual confidence is a bit contagious; if you spend enough quality, sexy time with a sexually confident woman, you’ll develop your own little stride.
I definitely think sexual confidence is a desirable trait, but the woman that inspired this blog was right. There’s definitely a double standard. I’m just glad to be who I am, among the sexy and spectacular women here!
Amen Amber. I have honestly never had sex with a virgin woman and don’t know if I would want to. Too many worries about how it would go during and after, lol. I can’t imagine being a mistress without being a sexually experienced and confident woman. So much the better experience for me and the mistress. But even beyond that society does have a double standard on sex and women vs. men. But I don’t need to tell you that, do I? Great thoughtful post!
Thanks so much! Glad you liked it. I’m still hoping I get to read another great piece of yours soon!