From time to time, I ask my sissy and cross dresser callers if they do their sissy shopping in the stores/malls/boutiques, or if they buy their girly things online. So many of you choose to do things electronically and avoid going out in public to shop for clothes, lingerie and feminine accessories.
Sissy Shopping Hesitation
I understand that some of you have never set foot in a boutique of any kind and it might even seem like a foreign place to you. After all, what will people think if they see you buying feminine things? What will they say? Will they judge you? Will they make a big deal about it or ask you to leave? These are all valid questions. And as far as the world has come and with as much progress we have made, discrimination still exists. There are still very closed-minded people out there, and they are not afraid to make their opinion known or be complete assholes in public.
Some of this has to do with geography. You might run into issues if you’re lingerie shopping in Provo, but you might have less of a problem in Los Angeles. Or the opposite could be true. I wish there was a sure way to know. Even though my state of Oregon is liberal, you can get a doughnut shaped like a cock and we bleed blue on election years, there are still some downright nasty, intolerant people here as well. I understand how it might seem like shopping online will be a sure thing to ‘play it safe’.
Why Shop In Public?
But when you shop online, you can’t feel fabric. You don’t know ‘true size’. Without seeing it in front of your face, there’s no way to tell what shade it really is. You also have no idea how it feels on, if the straps dig into you, if the fabric is itchy, if the garment bunches where it shouldn’t or if you just plain hate it. Just because they might deliver it with a return label doesn’t mean it’s not a hassle. Shopping in public means there’s no waiting. You have it now.
Some of you love shopping in the stores. Maybe shopping in public is a rush and you enjoy the feminine experience. Good for you. But for those of you that are super hesitant, let me encourage you. You don’t have to go to the mall. Maybe avoid big crowds and chain stores with ‘corporate’ policies that might not be very tolerant or open minded. Visit a smaller boutique, someplace that isn’t a chain at all.
Take it slow. Let them get to know you. Maybe you’ll make a few friends and get a few salesladies excited about helping you shop. Don’t want to shop dressed en femme? It’s up to you. Don’t want to shop in town? Drive to the next one over. But don’t be embarrased to ask for a fitting room. Allow yourself to be measured. Feel the fabric on your body, stand in front of the mirror and take it all in. You are a customer, just like everyone else.
You are here and you’re not going anywhere. And we are not going to make progress as a society if we do not learn about others and their differences as we allow them to learn from us. That’s how we grow and change, by inspiring others to open their minds and opening ours, too.
Sissy shopping in public is a cathartic, feminine experience and so much fun!
Let yourself have it.
I’ve done both and I like shopping in person. ive alone but id rather go with one of my girlfriends instead of by myself. Though I did buy lipsticks/blush by myself and salesgirl did try blush/lipstick samples on me and that was a thrill with her soft hands touching me and being a helpless sissy as she asked who they were for and I told her it was for me. I’ve got fit for bras as that was hot with me wearing a bra in front of salesgirl as she knows it was for me and I’ve yet to go dress shopping as I do have lots of dresses. My masseuse has taken control of what I spend and said that we will go after the new year. My women’s wardrobe has grown more and more as I like the styles/dresses/slacks/bras/panties/tops/sweaters way better then my guy clothes as I’m buying less and less of them as they are boring and to full.
Yes! Shoppping with girlfriends is so fun, and then you can make a day of it.
I bet shopping for makeup was definitely a thrill!
Shopping for makeup was a thrill!! I was nervous & scared at first but when she tried on samples of blush along with her soft hands touching me I felt relaxed and under her control. I did get hard but didn’t make mess in my panties. I’ll for sure go back and see what lipsticks to try as I’ll ask and let her try shades on me along with buying more perfume. After this experience they know I’m a sissy boy but I’m fine with this and don’t care. I want women to take control of me like this.
Women know how best to help, and I know you have someone in your life that is leading you. Makes me smile to hear that!
Actually my masseuse had me go with her to get order from tj maxx and had me wait in women’s dress section/then went with her to buy make up she needed. She tried sample lipstick on me with blush then went back to her shop where she had me try on dresses/tops/fitted me in bra. I’m back on good terms with her as I bought her 32 ounce Ralph Lauren romance lotion which she really wanted and told me it made her day. With her dressing/fitting me in bra she has me by balls as her cream puff girl which is what I want and won’t ever question her ever. I’m hers.
And I hope you are forever!
For me I only shop in public because being married with a wife who monitors CC purchases on top of the risk of the package coming when she’s home. Maybe if I was single I’d do online shopping.
Though I do love the thrill of shopping for Gurly clothes and the embarrassment of it is a big turn on. I’ve never tried on any clothes just held up the clothes and made guesses. I’ve learned what my size is through trial and error. Over the years I’ve had many sales clerks make comments. At first I said they were for my girlfriend now I just thank them. I remember one time I used the “they’re for my girlfriend” line and got a “Bullshit” look. So from then on I just say they’re for me or thank them when they say the outfit I’m buying would look good on me. I always blush when I do get comments. In general I love shopping for Gurly clothes, make up and accessories.
I love hearing that, Stephanie!
And I bet you’re just adorable when you blush lol
Ms Amber, someone once told me that opinions are like assholes in that everyone has one. I loved your blog in support of our sissies going shopping. Thank you for that.
LOL
You are so very welcome.
LOL. Measuring is for home. Plenty of instruction on the Internet.
Shopping is easy. I use Macy’s. They have good quality. No one has ever questioned me.
However, if I have an internal fear reaction, then I will mention that I am shopping for my wife.
It is easier that transgender and transsexual men are more accepted.
However, even though there could be acceptance from the sales clerks, they may speak about the men to others which may be dangerous, A number of feminized men are murdered every year simply for being themselves,
Oh, I have spoken to some sissies who have asked to be measured by the clerk. LOL It can be part of the experience. And you’re right, there is danger sometimes. You may not have seen it, but I wrote a transgender blog a while back, if you’re interested.
https://theteaseshow.com/mistress-musings-transgender-choice-anger-and-love/
You’re right Ms Amber, it so much more fun to clothes shop in person. Last year my wife and I went to a mall together while I was crossdressed. We got makeovers together at a Sephora and then went shopping for clothes and shoes. It was so much fun shopping like girlfriends and sharing a big dressing room. And I felt so pretty after the makeover.
Usually I’m dressed in men’s clothes when we shop together, but she still helps me buy womens clothes without embarrassment. If she sees something that she thinks my femme self might like, she’ll ask me if I think Christina would like it. My wife is pretty awesome and is a big help to my femme side.
It always makes me happy to hear how some wives are helpful and understanding. It’s awesome that you have this!