Wanting To Be A Cuckold? Let Me Give It To You Straight.
If you’re a sissy or crossdresser with a wife or girlfriend, many of them ‘know’ even if you think she doesn’t. She may have never found your secret stash of girly clothes, but she’s not clueless. Sometimes, a wife won’t know how to approach you with the changes they’re seeing in you and they may be afraid to confirm the truth or have the marriage change. However, women are very perceptive and your mannerisms and attitude will give you away even when you do your best to hide them.
Women will crave masculinity if they’re not getting it from you, whether they know about your hidden sissy life or not. They may know already and say they’re ok with it. That doesn’t mean they’re not missing something, and they know it! That’s where the cuckold life comes in.
Cuckold Acceptance….
If you’re a sissy, you’ll need to accept that your female partner needs more than you can give her. You already know by now that women do whatever they want, even if you’re not ready or they’ve never discussed it with you. And if you’re a sissy, she’s going to feel like she gets to do whatever she wants.
In her mind, she may feel that you ‘owe’ her because of this. That might mean she takes the reins in the relationship and you take the submissive role, even if the two of you were always equal partners in the past. This route won’t always turn your wife into a cuckoldress, but it often will. And it may not be your choice, or go the way you expect.
Wives Don’t Always Play By The Rules…..
I’d like to say that wives always play by the rules and give their new boyfriends only one slice of the pie while you get the rest. Technically, cuckolding is for sexual needs and you (the husband) would be enjoying all of the emotional stuff and companion stuff. But women often get sex mixed up with love and can easily push a husband right out of their ‘inner circle’. This happens, and it might feel unfair and painful. You can’t help who you are and she can’t help who she is. You both need to be happy.
The Other Side….
Sometimes people can co-exist with the changes of a cuckold life, and sometimes they can’t. If a wife is disappointed, confused or secretly disgusted with your frilly sissy and female interests or if she feels like she was tricked into marrying someone who seemed like ‘all man’ at the time, she can often resent you. This can come out in all kinds of ways. Women can get pretty cold when they feel shorted.
There’s alot of talk around here about the fun and sexy side of cuckolding and I’ve written about it many times. Sometimes, learning to be a cocksucking fluffer and creampie eater is a blast. But just be prepared for the other side, as well. If you evolve from masculine husband to sissy companion, your wife may seek Alpha male attention. She may include you or choose to leave you out. She may stay in the home and have a side life, or decide that she only wants one man, the kind of man that you can not be. If this happens, you may be able to transition your marriage into a best friend-ish type of love. You might even find out that’s the way it should have always been anyway.
But life is too short to not be happy. Just be prepared for what ‘happy’ looks like for both of you. Be open minded enough to accept it, even if you never saw it coming.
Neither did she.
I’m Not married for this reason along with wanting to crossdress. My masseuse told me I’m lucky not to be in relationship and I told her I could care less if I have girlfriend as I’d rather dress up as girl at home and not deal with the drama/emotion of being in a relationship. She said I need to accept who I am and become which I agreed with. She’s married but told me not to worry about her husband, With her controlling my spending so I can do massages 3xweek for 2 hours and monthly waxings along with taking pictures of me dressed/madeup with lipstick/measuring/fitting and giving me 5 of her old bras to wear. I am her sissy cockold which I’m fine with. This really is for real. I belong to her as she really does own me as her cream puff girl.
Because you were born to be a creampuff girl, Petey!
This is an incredibly insightful post…..As a sissy cuckold i have actually experienced a lot of what you wrote…..I am glad i accepted my place and learned to be happy as a cuck!
It made me smile just to read that! Glad you could relate.
You really have great insight, Mistress Amber. This is exactly what happened to me. It starts as a fantasy because of the sissy shame. You feel your Wife deserves to be fucked by a real man. You fantasize during sex with Her. She sees how you get off on the idea. It turns out , She’s been thinking about it. You become more submissive. She becomes more dominant and independent. She goes looking for a real man. The sissy does nothing to stop Her. Then all sex revolves around the concept of Her being a Hotwife and you being s sissy cuckold. Sissy wears a French maid’s outfit to clean the house while She fucks Her new boyfriend. The sissy lives for the humiliation this brings. One day, your Hotwife files for divorce and you’re left to being a lonely sissy.
I have written a few blogs about someone already that is in this same situation….the Bull and my sissy’s ex are getting married and my sissy is paying for some of the wedding. They’ve got some incriminating pics and video of my sissy and he doesn’t want it to get out, so he’s doing whatever they want!
You have great insight, Mistress Amber. This is what happened to me. It starts with sissyshame. you feel Your Wife deserves to be fucked by a real man. You fantasize during sex. It turns out She has been thinking about it too. She sees how it turns you on. You become more submissive. She becomes more dominant and independent. All sex revolves around the idea that She is the Hotwife and you’re Her sissy cuckold. She dresses sexy and goes out while the sissy stays home doing housework in a French maid’s outfit. She starts to ignore you and eventually files for divorce. You’re left to be a lonely sissy with no direction. One thought crosses your mind: Be careful what you wish for.
Exactly! And that exact situation that you describe definitely happens….I have a few callers that got what they wanted and THEN got way more than they asked for.
Great post Mistress Amber. I love pieces that go beyond the kink into how it impacts real life. I tend to believe that the majority of heterosexual women desire to be with one man who is masculine. Maybe a select few are into Cuckolding their husband but I’m guessing even fewer are ok with a sissy husband who the Cuckold. Although the fantasy is hot for a lot of us sissies the reality of what heterosexual desire and need does not fit that lifestyle.
I’m almost certain that if my wife found out about me that she would leave me. I believe she’ll accept who I am and will still care about me but she won’t want to stay married. I’m fully prepared (as best as one can) that this is the likely outcome if she found out. Though I would hate to lose her because deep down I love her and will always love her I want her to be happy and have what she needs and deserves.
I’m glad you liked the post, Stephanie. Thank you!
And you may be right. Your wife could want to modify the relationship if she knew the truth. It’s possible that she has had inklings and seen traces of suspicious behavior over the years or maybe she’s truly blinded to all of it. Telling her would be drama that you don’t need and pain that would just be cruel for her, so all you can do is love her and do what you can to satisfy her as much as you can because she deserves it!