I thought I’d take a little break from summer beauty to share some thoughts I’ve been having lately. These thoughts of mine center around a show I’ve been watching about young adults with disabilities. A popular catchphrase of theirs is ‘Don’t Limit Me.’ They’ve even turned it into a hashtag, and for good reason. Anyone can achieve their dream, disabilities or not. But it got me thinking about the sissies and cross dressers that I speak to. If your dream is a feminine one, do you have the drive to seek it out? Are you limiting yourself? Are you allowing others to limit you?
Living A Limiting Life
Plain and simply put, you may not have been born into the body you wish you would have, but that is no reason to not love the person you are. Your exterior is just your skin, your vehicle. The truth of who you are resides deeper, where your heart and spirit truly define you.
Some of my readers here and the callers that use LDW have alot of anger, anger at themselves or anger at others. Maybe you have had a tumultuous life with rocky relationships because of your true feminine self and the feminization that you seek. Maybe other people have rejected you or hurt you, and maybe you have never let it go. Instead you live in those angry moments that you relive again and again. Now you judge everything and everyone by what one person or one group did. This robs you of more than time and joy. This limits your growth.
Maybe you hate the masculine clothes you wear because your desires are feminine? It is possible to be so unhappy that you put yourself down. Why do you believe you do that?
Did you marry a woman because of pressure to do so, and now you feel trapped? Are you in a continuous purge cycle, constantly amassing feminine clothes and items and then guilting yourself for having them so you throw them all away? Do you have a secret life that you can’t tell anyone about and it’s eating you up? You cannot go on that way forever. You cannot live a limiting life.
You’re Fabulous, And Everyone Else Can Fuck Off
Life is too short to not be happy. You’ve heard it, and now it’s time to live it. That being said, you cannot change other people, you can only change yourself. And at the end of the day, limiting yourself will only deplete you. So you may have to make some changes and leave some people behind, but you have to do what’s best for you or you’re no good to anyone.
- Do not allow anyone to put you down. Bullying happens to adults, too. Remove yourself from the situation.
- If you’re in the wrong partnership, you owe it to yourself and your partner to be honest. If you need out, do not leave your responsibilities behind.
- If you have any amount of feminine clothes and other items, stop purging. It’s so damaging to your psyche. Throwing things away doesn’t remove the desire for it. Instead, begin the journey of accepting who you are and give yourself permission to love what you own.
- Stop stamping down your feelings or filling the void you have with things that don’t help. Food, alcohol, gambling, shopping, even sex…..none of this will solve your problem. Each of these things can be enjoyed in a healthy way, but you need healthy outlets. Take a class, adopt a pet, learn to cook, join a gym, start a hobby, write a screenplay, anything! Hell, dance around your house to the music that you love. And TALK. Talk to others. Talk to people. Talk to your Mistress, talk to a support group if you want. Talk to like-minded people who have walked your path.
You do not have to live a limiting life. Your world is as big as you make it. You may not have started this life the way you wanted, you may not have had the easiest time of it. But medical advancements, hormone therapies and other opportunities in this life can make your life what you want it to be.
Be you even if no one else gets it. Pave your own way. No limits.
Great post!! I’m starting to buy and wear girls clothes in slow way. First with women’s clogs as they feel great on my feet. Ive bought 2 pair of women’s slacks and going to buy another 2-4 pair and start wearing them. I bought 4 women tops as well as they are sexy & stylish. If hot girl can wear them so can I. I also bought breast forms as Ms Delia/Ms Alyssa/Ms Audrey & Ms Emma really got on my case about this. They said with the body heat the forms will stick to my chest,fill out my bra and will have real life like breasts. As far as people noticing I don’t care. Guys don’t notice things like this anyway as they are to busy with work/sports,etc. I hope and want girls to notice as I’ll explain to them I like women’s clothes/fashion. I know I’ll need to come out of closet with friends as I want to start dating one of them and hope that my interest in women’s clothes won’t damage friendship or chances of dating. I don’t want to be perveted with this. I think I need to talk to my masseuse about this. I told her I’m the submissive type in which I told her I don’t mind women taking control of me in safe/non harmful way. She said she liked that when I said that. Nothing was said about my crossdressing but I think it’s only a matter of time, I just don’t want her or my 2 girl friends to dump me.
You really have to ne careful who you tell, and choose your circle wisely. But no matter what, living true to yourself is always best and the more you keep yourself in the shadows, the less you can truly be yourself.
This is awesome!
Funny I don’t let disabilities and other physical issues I’ve had limit me in my life in fact I’ve gotten more out of less. But when it comes to my kinky life I have held back due to the fear of how it will impact other aspects of my life that are important to me. It’s a tough balance and I wish I knew it wasn’t a stage when I was younger.
Thank you so much for the encouragement to all of us who need it Mistress Amber. You are not only beautify on the outside but gorgeous on the inside. ????
Thank you, Stephanie! You are just the sweetest, and your words mean alot to me! Amber Academy is definitely a labor of love.
I am very careful with this. I just dress up as girl at home in privacy of my room. I won’t wear dresses or anything flashy out in public. For me it’s fun/enjoyment as well great way to end day and relax before bed. I tried on d cup breast forms and wow!! With them filling out my bra as well with body heat they are so real!! I know what women go through. I slept with them as I use it to avoid sleeping on chest and now have to sleep like a women. Honestly I like wearing them.
Breast forms are tons of fun, yes. I am small chested and have even worn them on some occasions.
They are addicting to wear as I’ve started to wear them when I go home. Now that I’m waxed the breasts stick to me and are absorbed into my chest! They fill out my bra and when I wear women’s tops/slips/dresses they stand out!! Now I know what women go through!! I finally have d cups!
And I bet you rock ’em, Petey! Good for you!