Too often, we rush things. There’s a reason I hate fast food chains, and that’s because they have taken the beauty out of eating. Instant coffee? You miss the aroma of fresh-brewed. I have even refused to buy a bread machine, because there’s something cathartic about punching dough and creating something rustic. I’ll actually shoo my cuck out of the kitchen for that, because I love making bread. Of course it takes longer, but it’s worth the wait. Masturbation shouldn’t be rushed either. There is beauty in the process. Of course, sometimes you’re in a hurry, you have a meeting, your wife will be home in 10 minutes or you’re just too tired to do anything special and you just need to cum. But don’t rub out so many quickies that you forget how amazing The Masturbation Experience can be.
The difference between mindless stroking and purposeful pleasuring
One-on-one contact with someone else touching your body as you touch theirs is a whole other thing, and you don’t always get that. But why should you take any less care with yourself just because you’re alone? Don’t underestimate the sensations that come with caressing your own nipple, running your own hand across your skin, and essentially touching yourself the way a lover would. What a travesty it is when a hand always travels straight to the one place that will begin and end the orgasm because we are so out of touch with ourselves that we don’t know what else to do. Our bodies crave contact, and just as there is a difference between fucking and making love, there is a difference between mindless stroking and purposeful pleasuring. Your body has been with you all this time, and there should be no reason it ever feels weird to pamper it or spiritually connect with yourself in masturbation. If it does feel weird, it’s possible that you have removed the beauty of what it is, and reduced the entire experience to just meeting a need. There’s a coldness in that, and I don’t recommend it. Know yourself, listen to your body and give a little warmth when you touch yourself. In a world that rushes the hell out of you, slow it down. Take time to explore, relax, breathe, touch and react.
Make love to yourself. Allow yourself to do so.
Ms. Amber, When masturbators know they can get away with masturbating I believe this sets the pattern for more improved future masturbating habits. They find it more pleasurable to get close to orgasm two to three times a day then allow themselves to orgasm. The release feels good – different than if they were to rush.
I agree, Miss Cindy. What I was really hoping to convey with this blog entry was just how beautiful masturbation can be. Quickies are inevitable, but everyone should take the time once in awhile to slow it down and really enjoy not only the destination, but the journey.
I hope this isn’t a double comment–I got an error message when I tried to post the first time.
Anyway, a paraphrase of what I wrote is that I don’t get many guided masturbation calls, and I wish I did, because encouraging just what you describe is so rewarding. Sure, I have a special affinity for anal play, but it’s not just for selfish reasons that I like to encourage guys who haven’t to explore their bodies (not just their asses). I’m not sure, but I don’t think men are encouraged to do this enough. But in my experience, at least half the time they can turn a fun, explosive but somewhat mundane practice into WOW if they just open their minds.
(Oh, and I more than agree with you about fast food and coffee)
You are so right, Miss Rachel! I am definitely all for mind-expanding orgasm!