They say that this is a season for love, peace, joy and giving. I agree, and I love when loved ones get a chance to spend time together. Actually, I just adore everything associated with Christmas…..the smell of pine, the way a fresh snowfall offers indescribable beauty on the lawns down my street, the holiday coffees at Starbucks and all the sales at the mall! But while you’re wrapping up your holiday giving, make sure you give something to yourself, too. Allow yourself to feel feminine this Christmas, to enjoy time in elegance and pampering. Last week, I’ll be writing about being a secret sissy, but not all of you are sissies. Many of you have an inner fulfillment that makes your feminization more spiritual than anything else and it’s not about the ‘outward’. Next week, I will be talking about the tangible application of being who you are, but more than the actual ‘homework’ of transitioning your male undergarments into frilly, female underthings, I want to touch on the act of letting feminization sink in. Allow it to permeate you deeper than your clothes. Soaking it in like a rich lotion means that it’s still there no matter what you wear.
Struggling with cross dressing
I know that I touched on stumbling blocks in Series I of Amber Academy, and they detailed the various obstacles that sometimes stand in the way of sissies and cross dressers being who they are, feeling like they can be who they are. You may feel that there are periods of time where you feel free enough to be you, and sometimes, even brazen and unapologetic about it. How quickly our emotions can knock us down with either external issues or internal doubts that creep up, and suddenly we feel lost and wandering. Not only are you not alone, it affects natural born women the same way. Every person on this planet struggles with wondering if they’re enough, if they’re loved, if their lives have meaning and if they are accepted. I have never approached feminine guidance as being all about the clothes and lipstick. That part is fun, but I have always been much more interested in the foundation in which we decorate and present to the world. This season, take some quiet time to reflect. Love and peace starts in you, and joyful giving springs forth from there. You cannot help others and be a good friend or even a purposeful individual until your inner place finds calm.
This Christmas, may you love yourself from the inside first, rooting out anything that would steal your joy.
Look ahead with eager eyes to all that is before you.
You touched on so many points that I empathize with. For so many sissies and crossdressers the biggest bully can often be the internal struggle within that keeps them feeling battered and weak. I just hope they realize they can come to us for some solace in their quest to align with their true selves.
I think what makes us so equipped to help is that everyone struggles with things. We may not all struggle with the same things, but we can relate on different levels, and sometimes you just need someone to talk to. Confiding in someone helps to get a different perspective!
What a wonderful post! The gift of ridding oneself of that which is not needed or helpful. Like that nagging little voice that does nothing but try to make us second-guess our intrinsic sense of self. That is the best present we can give ourselves and it’s absolutely priceless. Self-confidence is also one size-fits -all and it looks flattering on everyone. Very powerful words you blogged here that transcend the froth of femininity and penetrates to the soul-deep heart of it. Love it! 🙂
I am so excited at all 2015 can be for my friends, I just want to encourage them in any way I can. Learning to love who we really are opens our ability to love others more. What a great goal for all of us!